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Angelique Medow
our vision. Think about it; when we’re “checked out,” none of our senses are
keen. How could we expect to see, speak, think, or feel clearly? Second, we have
to be willing. We need to believe that
it’s possible to know and understand ourselves, and that no matter what we find, it will be OK.
Let’s Take a Look
How do we do it? Let’s open the five gates.
The First Gate
Judgement. Like a house of mirrors, nothing deflects our ability to look within like judgment. Sure, we might have our reasons for judging ourselves. Maybe we did something that we know we shouldn’t have. In the desire to avoid believing that we are bad and wrong when we know that we have behaved
in bad and wrong ways, we judge and distance our good and right self from our bad and wrong self. We might even make a nickname for the bad and wrong part of us, like Mr. Hyde or The Devil, claiming that the bad and wrong part isn’t part of us at all. When we abandon the judged part of us in this way, we abandon our ability to heal it. And then we’ve left the door to our hearts and minds wide open to be filled with every form of addiction, distraction, and pain. So open the gate and judge not.
The Second Gate
Meanness. Nobody likes mean people. We avoid them and hide from them. The same goes for the way we treat ourselves. If the good and right part of us calls the bad and wrong part of us mean names, like "stupid," "fat," "ugly,"
"worthless," and so forth, then the bad part will feel hurt, angry, rebel and hide. It is very difficult to get to know anyone who is hurt, angry, rebellious, and hiding their truth. By choosing
to be kind to all of our self as we learn more about ourselves, we keep
communication open and pleasant with both parts of ourselves and we can learn more. So open the mean gate and be kind.
The Third Gate
Stubbornness. Instead of being stubborn and refusing or resisting to look, we can be curious. Think about how curious
we were to get to know that special someone that we’d fallen in love with. Are we willing to become that curious about ourselves? We really are quite fascinating, so open the stubborn gate and be curious.
The Fourth Gate
Blindness. Instead of choosing not to look, for fear of what we might find,
we can observe. We can watch how we think and feel. Like a three-year-old, we can ask ourselves, "why?” and observe our reactions.
The Fifth Gate
Deafness. Instead of refusing to hear out of fear, we can listen. Time and again, it is my clients who choose to listen—to intuitive guidance, and to their thoughts, feelings and senses. They have the willpower to kick addictions and be their most successful selves. On the other hand, those who refuse to listen, and instead choose to check out through drugs, alcohol, denial, distraction,
and work, suffer the immense pain of addiction and then share that pain with everyone who becomes near and/or dear to them.
Why Bother?
When it requires us to open so many gates to really look within, people
have asked me, “why bother?” The simplest and most direct answer is to learn, to enjoy life more, and to bypass painful repeat scenarios (like the movie Groundhog Day). By looking within, we can go without addiction, drama and wrong-doing.
The Easy Way
The easy way to look within is to simply choose to unconditionally be kind, curious, and observant, and to listen. We can treat our whole self like a friend, one that we truly want to know, understand, and care for, for the rest
of our lives. When we can do this for ourselves and others, we will truly live in fascination and awe of the intricacy and simplicity by which we are made.
Make It Fun
What we find within can also be
quite entertaining. Haven’t you ever wondered, “Why do I do that?’ or “What is my favorite color?” and why? Or,
“Why do I always go for the same type of guy or always eat cheeseburgers and hummus on Sundays?” Who knows? YOU do! Have fun exploring.
I encourage you to start or continue your journey within and share with us what you learn, so we may grow in strength and willpower together.
Always with love, Angelique
Angelique writes and speaks on a variety of inspiring
topics related to ways to
hone willpower, become our personal best and kick harmful habits to the curb. She is a career professional and a
nearly 20-year veteran of the home design, television broadcasting and public speaking industries. She’s hosted shows on HGTV, DIY and the Travel Channel and has clients around the world. Personally, she has overcome harmful habits with food and relationships and continues to encourage thousands of people each year to let go of any fear that keeps them stuck. To book an event, visit or LIKE the Will You Guru page

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